Not everything is worth a battle
Every day, parents and children have many differences of opinion, some big, some small. Your child is more likely to listen when it counts if you aren't constantly correcting her over tiny matters. Take a few minutes at the end of a typical day to recall the battles you had with your child. Decide which were worth the fight, such as battles over safety rules, and which you will ignore if they crop up again.
Tuesday, May 15, 2018
Sort school papers into family 'mailboxes'
Your kids come home from school with a blizzard of permission slips, homework and other papers. To help you keep track, make a cardboard "mailbox" for each member of the family. After school, have your children put their papers in their mailboxes. Then you can review them, sign papers that must go back to school and return them to the boxes. Each evening, your kids can pack the signed papers into their backpacks.
Wednesday, May 16, 2018
Help your child think about what's going right
One way to help children become more self-assured is to shift attention from their shortcomings to their strengths. To direct your child's focus to his positive traits, ask questions such as, "What is something you like about yourself?" "What is something you felt good about today?" "What is something you were proud of today?"
Thursday, May 17, 2018
Play a game that adds value to reading
Here's a fun game that builds language and math skills. Assign each letter of the alphabet a monetary value (A is one cent, B is two cents, etc.) Next, ask your child to figure out the value of each family member's name. Whose is worth the most? Have fun figuring out the values of other words, too. Which is worth more, gold or silver? What is the shortest word your child can think of that is worth the most?
Friday, May 18, 2018
Practice phrases that resist peer pressure
Kids need to fit in. But they also need to know that there are times when they can't go along with the crowd. Role-play ways your child can say "no" to things that are illegal or against your family values. She could say, "No. I know it's wrong to do that," or make an excuse, "I can't. I have to babysit my brother." She could offer a better idea. "Why don't we watch TV instead?" She can even blame you. "My parents would ground me forever!"
Saturday, May 19, 2018
What says 'love' to your child?
Parents have innumerable ways of showing children they love them. But these are generally ways the parents imagine are important to their kids. To find out what your child really treasures, ask: "How did I show you I love you today?" You might be surprised at his answers!
Sunday, May 20, 2018
Break free of the rut of repetitive play
Many parents have a common complaint: "My child's play is so repetitive!" To introduce new elements into pretend play, change the story. For example, if your child always buys cereal when she plays store, introduce a challenge. Say, "Sorry, all out of cereal." Encourage her to solve the problem. If she needs help, offer two suggestions to choose from, "How about bagels or muffins instead?"